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Fertility Problems and the Medical System: A Waiting Game

By Julie

My husband and I have been trying for a year to have a baby.

On Sept. 11, I went to my family doctor for a physical. She referred me to a gynecologist. It has been more than a month and I am still waiting to find out my appointment date — which will be at least another several months wait!!!

On top of that, my blood tests from my physical showed that I probably have polycystic ovarian syndrome (PCOS) and, now knowing that this is something the gynecologist could help me with, makes the waiting to hear how long I will be waiting for my appointment with the gynecologist even worse!

Even more, my Pap test showed possibly pre-cancerous abnormal cervical cell changes — this has happened to me before. These are apparently associated with contracting HPV. My doctor recommended that I get that cleared up first, and now I have another referral to a separate gynecologist (which of course I am now waiting to hear how long I will be waiting for that appointment).

The last time I had to get these abnormal cell changes cleared up it took at least 6-9 months!!! Which could mean another year before I can even begin trying to deal with the fertility problems.

Basically my story is about waiting to be put on the waiting list to see a gynecologist, to then wait until one condition is cleared up, before I wait to see if there is anything the gynecologist recommends helps to improve my fertility!

Quite honestly, if the government wants to encourage women to have more babies, they should move faster when fertility and associated problems are present. And physician’s offices need to be more sensitive to the emotional stress women are under waiting to hear about how long they will be waiting to get an appointment.

A part of me just wants to give up on this whole baby thing. And I definitely will not be having more than one kid — if I ever do have one. This whole process is ridiculous! It feels like I am the lowest of priorities.



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